Pet grief is real – so why are so many afraid to talk about it?

As the UK marks Pet Remembrance Day today, Saturday 5 July, Dogs Trust Ballymena is urging grieving dog owners to break the silence around pet loss, highlighting new research that reveals the deep emotional toll of losing a beloved canine companion — and how often that grief goes unspoken.

According to findings from the UK’s largest dog welfare charity, 89% of dog owners say the loss of a dog is comparable to losing a close family member, yet nearly half of bereaved owners admit they didn’t feel able to talk openly about their feelings.

The charity’s research reveals that one in ten dog owners had no one to talk to after losing their pet, with many citing fear of judgement (15%), a belief others wouldn’t understand (22%), or feeling embarrassed by the intensity of their emotions (12%).

For 13%, the pain was so profound they simply “struggled to find the words”.

With more than a million dogs dying in the UK each year, the emotional impact is enormous — yet pet bereavement remains largely invisible, especially in the workplace. Just 13% of those surveyed said they felt comfortable discussing their grief with employers or colleagues.

“Their feelings are valid” – Dogs Trust Ballymena speaks out

Conor O’Kane, Rehoming Centre Manager at Dogs Trust Ballymena, is encouraging dog owners to acknowledge their grief without shame.

“People can feel ashamed or silly for grieving a dog, but their feelings are valid. We see first-hand just how deep the bond goes between humans and their dogs. For many, a dog is a constant companion, a source of love, laughter and security so it’s only natural that losing them leaves a huge hole.”

He added:

“We want people to know they’re not alone in their grief. Talking about it, remembering your pet, and finding your own way to heal is part of the journey.”

Support is available

Dogs Trust is using this year’s Pet Remembrance Day to remind owners that help is at hand, offering guidance and compassion to anyone mourning a dog.

The organisation recommends the following advice for those grieving a pet:

• Lean on your loved ones: Don’t isolate yourself – sharing your feelings can be healing.

• Be patient with yourself: Grief takes time. Let your emotions unfold naturally, without judgement.

• Look after your health: Try to maintain a routine – eat, sleep and move your body when you can.

• Honour your pet your way: There’s no one way to grieve. Do what feels right for you – from lighting a candle to creating a photo album.

For more information and support, visit www.dogstrust.org.uk.